I remember Jerry Seinfeld used to do a bit about parenthood. He’d say, “When you wake up in the mornings as a parent, you have to be READY!” And as he told the joke, he would have his knees bent, hands out and eyes open wide, looking around. Ready for anything.
I feel that way. It’s the one thing about parenthood that I just can’t get used to. It’s so nonstop. I’m constantly paying attention to where Jack is and what Sissy has in her mouth. And who’s hungry and who needs a nap. And what’s for dinner and whether we have time for a bath. And on and on and on.
So I have to find ways to break the MOM cycle.
Do you have any secrets? Here are seven of my mine:
1. Getting pedicures. I’ll take forty-five minutes of gossip magazines, a massage chair, and pretty feet any day.
2. Going on date nights. John and I have been going on what we call the “Sunday matinée” — an early dinner alone or with friends on Sundays from 5 to 7p. Recently we went to Clark’s. OMG it felt good to slide on some pumps and a sundress, and sip champagne without anyone climbing on me.
And then enjoy one of the best crab cakes I’ve ever had.
3. Writing this blog, when I can find the time, is cathartic and fun. And it’s like Christmas when someone comments! (Appreciation expressed here.)
4. Exercising. Although I rarely make time for a true workout, if I at least plan to do it, I have an excuse to wear workout gear all day. Which is super cozy. As far as recharging, even a quick walk around the block works wonders.
5. Being spontaneous. Say what? Oh yeah, that whole concept of doing something random just for the fun of it. Like dancing in the rain.
We did that yesterday. Jack shrieked and splashed with delight. Sissy shook her arms and legs like crazy as the rain poured down on us.
6. Shopping. Sorry Suze Orman, but there’s a reason it’s called retail therapy. If you don’t have your own funds to spend, let me suggest this: Offer to shop for a friend who hates shopping. (People like this do exist!)
7. Cooking or baking. It may not be an escape for everyone, but it is for me. Measuring, chopping, sifting, stirring. It’s an exercise of love.
Do you have other ideas? Do share! I can’t wait to hear them!